Interview with Michael Jordan’s personal trainer and Relentless author, Tim Grover

Interview with Michael Jordan’s personal trainer and Relentless author, Tim Grover

Grover divides performers into 3 levels of effectiveness: Coolers, Closers, and Cleaners. The “Cleaners” are top level, clutch performers who always reach down inside themselves to nail the winning shot. They are instinctual in their approach, deeply focused on the task at hand, and they set the standard for excellence.

“Your obligation to yourself to be the best has to be greater than any outside pressure on you.” Tim cites Tom Brady and MJ as athletes who exemplify this trait.

“We’re not born with greatness. That’s bullshit! You earn greatness. You have to fight like hell to get to paradise. People don’t know how to fight anymore. People quit [too often these days]… It’s the icons who fight like hell to succeed.”

We’re all going to fail at something. It’s only failure if you don’t bounce back.

On dealing with pressure: “Everybody can handle pressure. Most people decide not to. We run from it. Stress is just pressure you won’t deal with.”

The Importance of Mindset: “Before you have an exceptional skill set, you need to have a great mindset.


Via Negative : Say No to Bad Habits

Via Negativa – Improving by removing — “Via negativa can also be used to describe a similarly ‘negative’ way of improving one’s life; instead of concentrating on what you do, the focus turns to what you don’t do. This path has two main thrusts: stripping bad habits and situations out of your life, and avoiding bad habits/situations in the first place.” (Source: Art of Manliness.) Related: “The Not-To-Do List: 9 Habits to Stop Now.”

The 6 elements of an effective apology

The 6 elements of an effective apology, according to science | News Room – The Ohio State University

1. Expression of regret

2. Explanation of what went wrong

3. Acknowledgment of responsibility

4. Declaration of repentance

5. Offer of repair

6. Request for forgiveness

The most important component is an acknowledgement of responsibility. Say it is your fault, that you made a mistake.The second most important element was an offer of repair.By saying, ‘I’ll fix what is wrong,’ you’re committing to take action to undo the damage

Participants were less likely to accept apologies when the job applicant showed a lack of integrity versus a lack of competence.